why do men make drama out of nothing at all??

why is there a double standard associated with the standard walk away and leave someone who walks away and leaves you clause???

here is the deal...this kind of thing just happened to a friend....but i will use a very similar personal experience here, for clarity:

I go to a club with my roommate...i do not know anyone at this club...i am not hunting men at this club...i have chosen to go out with my roommate to share her company...my roommate meets a man at the bar begins talking...tells me to watch her drink while she goes to dance with him...returns 20 minutes later only to leave once again to dance...another 20 minutes go by...I get my purse and keys and go home...

no problem...no drama...no blame...i went to a place to have a night out in the company of the person I went there with...that person found other company...i got tired of sitting alone and went home...

roommate actually calls later and asks...where are you?...home, i say...well can you come pick me up?...sure, i say...i go get her...we talk and laugh about the guy turning out to be a "tard"

...no problem...no drama...

Now put a twist on that some situation...this is much like what happened to the friend I mentioned earlier...though made slightly hypothetical for clarity:

you are doing that fashionable thing that all men want to do of late...you know that, "I want to go out to places with...but I am NOT 'going out with you'" thing...and that going out while not going out finds you two in a establishment catering to night time entertainment...this night happens to be a night when the tarts are out in hoards...short skirted and fake titted...this is a night when you expect that the gentleman you did not out to this place with (yet you are here with him) will find plenty to do other than share his time with you...which is cool...because you can busy yourself...

however, after an hour or so of only getting a glimpse of him on the dance floor and in the corner with one tart and another...you get tired of being hit on and having drinks spilled on you and having no one to dance with unless you want to give some over-eager pussy hunter the wrong idea...you can't find the guy you did not come with for about 20 minutes to tell him you want to go....

sooooo...you go...you drive home put on your pj's and grab a cup of tea...no drama for you...just going where you can be comfortable...

Then the phone call comes...the "WHAT THE HELL KINDA DRAMA R U PULLIN' ON ME" call from that guy you did not go with...he is PISSSED...he says shit like..."you knew the deal...I am not dating anyone...no reason for you to get jealous and run off...i thought we had an understanding!!!"...

well holy bullshit batman...looky there...the one kind of accusation you can never defend yourself against...other idiots imposing their reasons for your actions onto you and assuming them to be your reasons...no defense because whatever you have actually done looks exactly like what they are accusing you of...it is all a matter of nuance and motivation...but who could convince anybody dumb enough to start this fight of anything involving nuance...

anyway...the point being...or the question...why do men constantly assume that they are the reason you do things???...why do we rare, few women who don't find being jealous worth our time constantly get accused of it?? why is it that acts of independence are mislabeled as drama...

hell if you want someone to sit around in a club and wait while you hunt pussy go hire a chauffer...there are times when we all just happen to go places on the same nights to seek our own fun with that "got your back" or "happy to introduce you around" thing goin' on...and that is cool...and then there are times when we go places with one another--to share of one another's company...and that is important too...for everyone, of all genders...just know the difference...and when two people turn out to be on different wave lengths...no accusations...NO DRAMA!!!!...You freaks!